But if you are unable to listen to a possibly differing opinion on the subject, something is wrong on your end of things. There's just no getting around the fact that the seasoned adult been-there-done-that perspective is absolutely essential.
Are you not mature enough to listen and consider contradictory evidence? It's no accident that the phrase "Love is blind" keeps making the rounds.
Ask yourself why he would be blessed to spend lots of time, maybe even the rest of his life on earth, with you. What are the payoffs of the date or the relationship? Or am I using the guy in my life to numb my pain and make me feel OK because (a) he desperately needs me, (b) he's very handsome (and thus of great worth, so I must be too), or (c) he's all I could find? This could be the most significant realization of your life. "You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God."This third command is all about taking responsibility for your choices and owning your life. What is certain is that he has in some way been shut down or emasculated, and sooner or later he'll resent you (however unfairly) for it.
It doesn't matter if you have "He's the one" looping through your psyche every 30 seconds and a wedding date almost set-the man you are seeing is a mere mortal.
Second, get super clear on your mission and your purpose on earth.
With this in mind, I, single until the ripe old age of 36, could not help but apply these great commands to the often crazy and confusing world of dating. Talk to Him, listen to Him, and study His teachings.
Once I did, I realized that there's no better material out there anywhere than what you find in Exodus 20. "You shall have no other gods before me."Applied to the world of the opposite sex, my single sisters, here's a paraphrase for you: Don't make Mr. In case you don't know, you're a worshipping creature. ll put something that looks like Him-men were created in His image, after all-on the throne.
Marriage works best when there are actually two whole people involved, and the more fully developed they are, the better. The gift of love will be given to you just like the gift of life was.